Musical Notes

The most elusive person you will ever meet is yourself!

Locked in the depths of your mind, imprinted with your memory, the feelings that drove each life decision is stored.

Each time you suffer a rejection or emotional pain, it is recorded in this manner.  The mind that cannot process pain in that instant will compartmentalize it.  Each time this happens, a part of you is walled off.

Over the years, you become less empathetic and your so-called emotional intelligence or EQ drops.

To unlock that part of your mind from it’s box, you must relive the memory.  Let yourself feel the moment.  As you do this you will understand what thoughts and feelings drove you in that moment.  Being older and wiser and stronger emotionally, you will see where you misunderstood things and understand not only you but others’ behavior from a new perspective.

These memories do not unlock easily.  The wall cannot be knocked down by sheer force of will.  All you have now is the sanitized surface memory, if that at all.

That’s where the music comes in.  Each relationship has a song, and each experience relates to some haunting music that resonates with you.

When you find yourself thinking of someone or something, especially from the past, take a little time to reflect on what happened back then.  When you find some music playing through your mind, take a moment or two to play it again.

The music relaxes your brain creating an alpha state, which is a more receptive state.  You may begin to recall that time and your feelings may come to the surface.  Sometimes you could be genuinely surprised to learn your true feelings. You might even recover repressed memory.  This process could take several days as memories gently resurface.

You will process the pain, and the part of your mind that was locked away for so many years will finally be set free.  Your emotional energy and depth of understanding will increase.  Your ability to connect with others will improve.  This healing process will help you return to a more whole state.

Another reward to this process of reviewing your past relationships and choices, is that you will begin to recognize your own self-defeating patterns.  When you wall yourself off, you will see that you have prevented others from connecting with you.  You will begin to see where you have run away from your own happiness out of fear.  Maybe next time you will have the wisdom to face a situation and give it enough time to play out before you cut and run.  Maybe next time you will learn how to protect your emotional health without closing the door on your happiness.

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